Separated but still living together – Top tips

Many couples find themselves still sharing the same accommodation even after they have agreed that their relationship is over.

Sometimes this is a choice because children are involved, and the aim is to maintain some sort of normality and routine for them; but often it is a question of financial necessity.

Living together while being separated can present unique challenges and circumstances and considerable emotional stress, but there are ways of minimizing the effects.

The priority MUST always be the safety of yourself and any children.  Never remain in a property where it is not safe and contact the Police or any support agencies if you need immediate assistance.

Here at Andrew Isaacs Law, we can advise and support you on the Orders available that can offer you some protection, should you need it.

Set Clear Boundaries

If you cannot physically separate then it is essential that clear boundaries are set during your separation.  Discuss and agree on personal space, privacy, and household responsibilities. This might include dividing chores, allocating time for use of communal areas, and respecting each other’s need for space. Clear boundaries help prevent misunderstandings and reduce tension.

Communicate Openly and Calmly

Clear and open communication is necessary whenever couples separate – but becomes imperative where you still share a home. Ensure that there are regular conversations to discuss any issues or changes in circumstances and make the necessary changes to your living arrangements. Remember to listen actively and express your thoughts calmly to maintain a peaceful environment.

Discuss the Financial Implications

Being separated but still living together can complicate financial matters. It is important to develop a clear financial plan that outlines how outgoings for the household will be dealt with . Discuss and agree on how to handle bills, groceries, and other shared costs. This plan should be fair and transparent to avoid financial disputes.

Create a Parenting Plan

If you have children, creating a parenting plan is vital. Decide how you will share parenting responsibilities and time with the children. Ensure that the plan prioritises the children’s well-being and provides them with stability and consistency. Communicate openly with your children about the situation, reassuring them of your continued support and love.

 Seek Support

Living together during a separation can be emotionally taxing. Consider seeking support from friends, family, or professionals. Counselling or mediation can provide a safe space to express feelings and work through challenges. Support networks can offer valuable perspectives and help you manage stress.

 Plan for the Future

While living together may be a temporary solution, it’s important to plan for the future. Discuss long-term goals and timelines for moving forward, whether that involves separate living arrangements or other changes. Having a plan can provide clarity and help both parties work towards a resolution.

Navigating separation while living together requires patience, understanding, and cooperation. By following these tips, you can create a respectful and manageable living situation during this transitional period.

It is important that you take legal advice and understand what implications your actions may have such as remaining in the property, moving out and what bills you pay.

If you need further guidance or support, contact us today. Our team is here to provide expert advice tailored to your unique circumstances, helping you navigate this challenging time with confidence.

Article dated: 30/04/2025